Straddling Boundaries of Blame and Bliss
I’ve been noticing that as people begin standing in their truths and speaking their minds more and more, there is often a subtle (but sometimes blatant) energy that comes from having such strong opinions, which in turns triggers those who hold an opposing or different viewpoint. Sometimes, I find myself debating whether or not to comment – for or against either side. After all, it is just their opinion and we’re all entitled to have one. Right now, I’m witnessing a lot of division between those embracing their newfound expressions of multi-dimensionality and those still entrenched in older paradigm… I know the majority of us are doing our best to straddle the boundaries of both.
Lately, there seems to be a big divide between those shifting into a new reality, doing a lot of the inner work along the way – mining the dross of old traumas and wounds for gems and doing their shadow work.. step into a new place of being. Then there are others who command kudos because of their pseudo-intellectual gift of the gab who don’t seem to be able to get out of their left brain transit lanes long enough to envision other possibilities and realities outside of their elitist view points. People seem to have picked up one end of the stick and painted the other opposing opinion or group with one gigantic broad brush stroke. Judgment or discerning observation – you choose.
Why are we still making generalisations about each other when we all have something to learn, share and offer each other? The other day I read a comment by someone (a positive yahoo type) who’s response to another friend expressing his depth of a painful breakup was that “it was boring to read”. Really? Seriously. Just because you’ve found your way out of your own dark cesspool and never want to enter the dark night of your soul again doesn’t mean you should trivialise another person going their process. Sure, nobody wants to see anyone wallow in depression and self-pity for all eternity, but FFS… let’s try not to be such spiritually enlightened elitist divas about it. Have compassion and dignity for another’s experience and hold some genuine heart-space for them.
There is a time and season for everything.
There are days when I roll my eyes at my Facebook news feed. There are days when I really needed to read or see it. There are days when I wish someone would stop regurgitating the same stuff in a slightly different package, but there are days when I’m glad for the reminder to play dress-up in drama class. Point is – we can all get so caught up in defending our opinions, but they are just that.
Likewise, there are those who seem so entrenched in the quagmire of their ego intellect and judge others who focus on lifting their states of consciousness, claiming that they must be bliss trippers engaging in some form of spiritual bypassing. Why does it have to be one or the other? Why is one camp right and the other camp foolish? Granted, many of us haven’t found the magnum opus and some get dressed in garbs, pretending they have… but is it possible that others have actually navigated their way out of the labyrinth that others are still in? Let’s observe and withhold judgment, can we?
People are still tripping each other up over the ego – not realising or understanding that there are different definitions and understandings of the ego. From a psychological perspective, the ego functions in 3 different realms – unconscious, preconcious and conscious. It is also one of 3 other aspects of the psyche – namely, the id, the ego and the superego. Many vilify one over the other, not understanding there are both shadow and light aspects of the ego. One caters more to the instinctual base primal urges, where one is more responsible for keeping the reigns in check. An expanded perspective holds the observation of all aspects, seeing both sides of the equation. Again, I constantly see arguments for one over the other – simply because of distorted reference points that don’t consider the wider field of expression.
If only they would expand their horizons to allow for a larger perspective and see that one’s frame of reference is merely a fractal part of the whole. We’re all at various stages on the spectrum of human exprience right now. If only we dropped into that zero point or the field that Rumi talks about more often to meet each other and just let them believe what they do and “live and let live”.
True wisdom keepers don’t need to write books and promote themselves. They don’t need to create a personal brand and market themselves as the next best guru with the latest spiritually cutting-edge program. Nor do they need to post photoshopped selfies of themselves every second day. I’m not suggesting that we can’t embrace and express the divine essence of our human-ness. Nor am I saying we can’t share our unique gifts and talents with the world. I’m merely suggesting a little humility and reverence in the wild foliage of our soul’s sanctum – just sometimes. Quite often, giving authentic credit where authentic credit is due probably doesn’t happen nearly as much as it could or should. I think we’re all capable of less blame and judgement and far more compassion and support in our connections. Because when we do navigate those areas of shadow, self worth and own our secret scary stuff, perhaps we reclaim full access back to our divine birth rights – which I fully believe IS actually in the garden state of bliss.
Okay, that’s my frst rant of the year – over and out.